Sex at Dawn versus Sex at Dusk

Sex at Dawn is a witty, well-supported and pertinent questioning of monogamy, power and society written by two qualified outsiders who do nothesitate to tell you who they are and what their qualifications are. Sex at Dusk is a dreary vendetta written and self-published by an unknown author of unknown qualifications, beyond the statement that she's studied and talked on sex for many years, specifically aimed at 'debunking' Sex at Dawn. Sex at Dusk is so dripping in venom that one begins to wonder if Saxon even likes sex at all. Her book is certainly nasty enough to make one require getting treated for rabies. At the heart of both books is female sexuality. Sex at Dawn rejoices in and acknowledges the glory of the feminine 'unleashed'. Sex at Dusk tries to posit the idea that female promiscuity leads to passive female sex roles and accuses the authors of Sex at Dawn of being sexist because, according to her, 'forcing females into male sex roles' by which Saxon means females desiring sex, propositioning males for sex and initiating sex. Saxon seems to find women desiring sex with multiple males offensive. Yet, the idea of women prostituting themselves for meat, a spin she puts on the practice, she does not find offensive. Saxon believes in the one size fits all and sex should only be along the path outlined in the standard narrative despite the fact that the standard narrative does not work and never has. She does not pose anything new. All she has to say is the same old tired arguments supported by those sharing her same agenda - keep the status quo flawed though it is. As for the Musuo culture, well, that's just "the exception that proves the rule".

The Multi-Orgasmic Man

While it is true that no man can have as many orgasms as any woman, it is possible for men to have more than one orgasm per erection. All he has to do is to not ejaculate. Ejaculation triggers the refractory period (the resting period) in men so if he can avoid that, he can continue enjoying sex.

Easier said than done and men have been working on delaying orgasm for centuries since it is not polite for him to have his orgasm before she has her orgasms.
The orgasm is separate from the ejaculation. Orgasms are the flexing of the peri muscle while ejaculation is the release of fluid from the penis. By doing his Kegel exercises (stopping and starting the flow of urine while urinating by flexing this muscle) he can improve his control and strengthen this muscle.

A man can ejaculate without having an orgasm and can orgasm without ejaculating.
There are various methods used to delay orgasm including thinking of something else, focusing upon your partner, slowing down, changing positions, and stopping whatever is going on so he can regain his control. Condoms can also be used since they decrease his ability to feel to some degree.

Men can also practice using masturbation. The idea is for him to control his orgasm first and then to control his ejaculation by finding the pause in-between the two. Once found, increase the time of this pause by flexing the peri muscle during orgasm - thus extending the orgasm and extending the pause. Getting this just right may take some practice. This extending the pause is known as edge play because the man is riding on the edge of ejaculation.

To practice during intercourse, use small movements on her hotspots, moving from one to the other after each of her orgasms. Thrusting will only lead to orgasm and ejaculation so the idea is to avoid thrusting. A steady rocking movement that permits both partners to savor the orgasms that roll on through is the goal.

Women can assist in this endeavor in one of two ways. The first is by “doubling him” which is forcing out another orgasm just when he’s having one by continuing the movements that brought him to orgasm. Most men have a kind of “second gear” that they employ when moving to orgasm. Match his “second gear” and keep going until he comes again.

The second method is to delay or prevent thrusting using your body, internal muscles, or to delay orgasm by squeezing the base of his penis with some firmness, but not a vice-like grip, with your fingers. What technique will be required does vary from partner to partner so some exploration and experimentation will be needed.
Please be advised that men might also experience the same ‘false pain’ as a woman might when becoming multi-orgasmic and for the same reason. Once again, once he has become multi-orgasmic, the pain will not reoccur.

The point to doing all of this is to make it possible for men to continue the sexual interlude for four to five hours without needing a break. It is not mandatory. Should a man suffer from premature ejaculation, he might want to pursue edge play with the aim of gaining more control over himself.

There is a difference between circumcised and uncircumcised penises.
Circumcised penises tend to be less sensitive, from having been rubbing up against clothing for years, which tends to make edge play easier. No guarantees of course, as individuals vary.

It is entirely possible to have satisfying sex without going through all of this. But think about it. Wouldn’t it be fun to have two or three orgasms per erection? Wouldn’t it be fun to have sex continuously for four to five hours?
There is Tantric sex, the Kama Sutra, and various other methods available for those wishing to put some spirituality (etc.) into their sex life and this is fine as long as your partner is willing.

Then there’s the opposite problem from premature ejaculation: Erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, and the inability to ejaculate. In the absence of any medical conditions (which are beyond the scope of this book), body worship will help these conditions by relaxing him.

If a man has used steroids or some illegal drugs - he will not be able to orgasm. Should a woman come across a bulked up man with small testicles - he used steroids. “Users” are harder to spot but be advised that drugs tend to ruin the quality of sex to the point of why waste your time. Women can be similarly afflicted but normally the inability to orgasm in women stems from what is in their heads (what they believe) than what is in their bodies.

Becoming a Dominatrix

We’ll begin by defining what we mean when we say ‘dominatrix’. I mean assuming the leadership role in sexual relationships. In truth, any woman sexually ‘outguns’ any man. This can be very off-putting to some men and inspires fear in some other men who then question her loyalty and seek to assume control over her and over her sexuality. Most women are trained to comply and accept that she is responsible for his ego and for his emotions. Therefore, most women are modest, people-pleasing appeasers who want to be liked by everyone they meet and wouldn’t say boo to a goose, make a scene, or bring a rapist or abuser up on charges. Most women therefore accept the submissive role in their sexual relationships telling themselves that being submissive and being sexually reticent is their natural feminine role. By understanding that nothing could be further from the truth, one begins becoming a dominatrix. Forget the thigh-high black leather boots and all of the stereotypical accessories; they are not needed. All that is needed is the attitude that you rule: that your desires are just as legit and just as important as his. However, since we’re also playing fair and we don’t like being beaten up, debased or humiliated, we’re not going to inflict any of that on our partner. Our definition then changes to include the expression ‘soft’; we are soft dominatrices. We require his cooperation, his compliance, his agreement – not his total surrender of self. Of course should he not comply, there is no sex and she merely walks away. Each of us must own our emotions. If he says no, you must accept it just as if you say no, he must accept that. Just as you are not here to prop up his ego, appease his anxieties or assuage his insecurities he isn’t here to prop up, appease or assuage yours. If you’re going to mess about with adult fun, you simply have got to be adult about it. No bartering, blackmailing, daring, cajoling, begging, pleading is permitted on anyone’s part – not even yours. You cannot force his compliance, you can merely invite his compliance. Mutual consent is the rule. The thing to remember about consent is that it can be withdrawn at any time by everyone involved. If he wants more than you are willing give, you can say no or withdraw your consent. Taking charge in the bedroom – what does that mean, exactly? It means determining who will do what to whom, how, when and where it will be done, step by step. It means non-verbal and verbal communicating good or bad, like or dislike, go or stop, up or down, right or left and so on. It also mean watching and listening to his verbal and non-verbal communication as well and studying his reactions to what you’re doing to him. You can have him lie unmoving while you explore his body omitting his genitals, for example. That usually gets his attention. Sliding your body over his while he is not permitted to respnd also works very well. Above all, do not be shy and forget being modest. You are She and he is Yours.